I continue to read articles about the “Welfare Queens”. You know; the single mothers who are raising children in the “Ghetto.” Some of the articles refer to these women as irresponsible, man-hungry, system abusers, and drug addicts. I am here to tell you these assessments by the media and our own narrow thinking; are not always true. Single mothers are very vulnerable and fall prey to negative people and circumstances trying to survive. It is a difficult task to raise children as a single mother; whether you are in the ghetto or not. Some of these mothers had developed survival tactics.
One survival tactic is a “guy”. When a single mother has a” guy”, she has a protector. He may not be of good character, but he is someone on who she can rely. If she has a man, he becomes her physical and emotional security. As a result, the other predatory men leave her alone. This "guy” can be the one who helps her to buy (not just something extra) for her and the kids, but provide a great deal of extra funds to meet necessities to make her feel safe and secure. This protection from a “guy" can come with a negative price. However, they have adopted a mindset; a "piece" of a man is better than no man at all.
Another tactic; is a “gun”. A single mother had a bunch of teenagers who took over the basketball hoop in her yard. She asked them to leave so her younger children and their friends could play; they refused. They began to cuss and ignore her. This woman went into her house, brought out a revolver and pointed it at the teenagers. And so, they ran out. Someone could have gotten hurt; especially since the woman really didn’t know how to use it.
These first two survival tactics can be pretty familiar to some single women; but not so much God. Some have never heard how God is more than a survival tactic. They never heard about a God who is able to provide, protect, and who will never leave or forsake them. They don’t know our God, who doesn’t want her to just survive life, but have an abundant life.
So the Rhema is, stop judging what you don’t really know. Stop criticizing these women and go out and tell them the Good News. Tell them so they can kick out the guy, put down their guns and get all they need from having a relationship with a loving God.
And this is Truly Said ™.
Sword: For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is His name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.” Isaiah 54: 5 (NLT)
Application: Read this scripture to the single women who are lost. God is not only a husband (the one who provides), but a Defender. Remember the Gospel isn’t as simple, as we think; for someone who has no knowledge of Christ. Instruct them how to live the Word.