I was working with a client. As long as he stayed away from his girlfriend; he could remain sober. I didn’t have to tell him she was “bad news”; he knew it. He would talk to me concerning how she would continually bring drug users into their home and then he would fall into her trap of enticing him to have just “one”. Sometimes tears would roll down his cheeks, when he would talk about how she degraded him and had cheated on him.
We would talk concerning the strategies he could use to distance himself from her. However, she would use her network of using friends to find him. Soon she would lure him back to into the drug life. And soon after, he would begin his old cycle of losing his job, his apartment and doing jail time.
He completed his sessions with me and after some months, he was back into my office. He updated me on his situation. He went to jail, received probation, and was sent to work with me again .He said he was staying sober, got his job and apartment back. I applauded him, but I could see he was distressed. He confessed his desire to stay sober, but he was afraid the old girlfriend would find him and they would start using again together. I reviewed the negative consequences of being with her and what we had discussed in the past, concerning ways to avoid her.
He hung his head; wouldn’t look up at me and asked, “I’ve tried all those things but they didn’t work. What else can I do?’
I was so frustrated with him because he just needed to do what we had discussed. I let out a sigh of exasperation and said,” When you see her, just run like hell.”
When he left my office I felt bad with being so flippant with him, however he replied to me,
“Ok, I’ll do that.”
He finished treatment with me and visited me some months later. He was still sober, doing well, and was no longer seeing the girlfriend.
I smiled, congratulated him, and asked,” What did you do to stay away from her?”
He looked at me with surprise, “I did what you told me to do. Every time I saw her, I didn’t say anything to her. I would just turn and run like hell. I know she and her friends thought I was crazy; running away like that... But I didn’t care, cuz she got the message.”
As I listened to him, I was stunned and amused. He was overjoyed that the strategy I gave him worked; and so was I. When he left my office, I sat in my chair, and thought about the actions he took to get away from evil. I had a new revelation, a “Rhema” about removing myself from sinful people and environments .When coming in contact with them, I won’t say a word; I will just turn and “ run like hell.”
And this is Truly Said.
Sword: Stop being deceived: “Wicked friends lead to evil ends.” 1 Corinthian 15:33 (ISV)
Application: We have to let go of relationships that don’t honor God. You have to be bold and tell them that you want to live your life to the glory of God. Don’t try to argue your reasons with them; no reason will be sufficient for them, unless they are ready to follow the Lord.